Soul Mates Are Not Who YOU Think They Are!

Soul mates are not necessarily our other half,our partner in life or the person we are meant to find and be with til death do us part.That is actually our Life Mate. The one person we are meant to meet and journey through this lifetime side by side,our other half as it were. The other half of our soul. We can have more than one soul mate but usually only one Life Mate. We can find love again if we lose our Life Mate and have a fulfilling ,loving relationship but it is rarely the same deep soul connection.
A Soul Mate is a person who will come into our life to teach us our life lessons and stay only until we experience those lessons that we have agreed to learn before we are born.Those lessons can be harsh,cruel,sad,devastating,joyful but they are necessary for our growth. Some religions believe we keep coming back again and again until we experience each lesson and learn what we need to learn.
That does not mean we cannot learn from a Life Mate as well as a Soul Mate.We grow and become who we are meant to be from both teachers. Not everyone meets their Life Mate but we all meet our Soul Mates.

Mirrors in your life and what are they beyond the obvious? Think back on someone who pisses you off for no apparent reason.You just don't like the person! They make you angry to even hear them speak. Take a close look at them and ask yourself what is it about them you really dislike. Then take a closer look and you will realize that you see in them something that you don't like about yourself.They are your MIRROR.We can learn a lot about ourselves by observing our mirror and it isn't always pleasant.However ,it can be very enlightening.
Life is a gift to be lived to the fullest and remember that life is a journey and not a destination!

MISSING MUSES,REWARD FOR THEIR CAPTURE AND RETURN!

       I have three Muses.One looks like and acts like Audry Hepburn,one looks and acts like Kathryn Hepburn and  the male looks like Matthew Macfadyen. They have been with me since I started on this wonderful and very difficult career as a full time writer five years ago. They have guided me,encouraged me,whispered ideas in my ear and kicked my butt when I've needed it kicked.Unfortunately they are very Fey and don't always show up on time and have been known to disappear.This is one of those times.

       On  a whim,they have taken off on a vacation when I am at a crucial point in my latest novel,the middle!Unfortunately this isn't the first time they have done this,but they don't usually leave me at such a crucial point and they usually tell me where they are going.Last time was during NaNoWriMo when Matthew decided to head to Ireland for holiday and of course,the two ladies followed him.I managed to lure them back by hanging pictures of them and Ireland all over my room.
Since they got wise to that and didn't tell me this time where they were going I am forced to take drastic measures. I am posting this blog and offering a non monetary reward for their capture and return, in good condition of course. 
       Meanwhile I am writing a few new scenes in the manuscript that they insisted I finish.Between you and me,I think they are getting even for my not immediately writing the new scenes they suggested.Hopefully this will appease them and they will return when they realize I will likely make a mess and the WIP will need tons of revisions(which they hate to do).they hate it when I make a mess they have to help clean up.Mwwaaahaha,there is a method to my madness!

PROCRASTINATION IS NOT ALWAYS A BAD THING!

        Today is Sunday.The sky is blue with a few fluffy white clouds here and there and a light breeze.It's June in Texas so it's hot!I should be writing new scenes in my latest novel,Evolution of Monsters, or editing my two finished novels and writing queries to send out to agents and publishers.I should be writing new stories in my Bedtime Stories for Children of All Ages book.  I should be writing new scenes in my fantasy novel,but obviously I'm doing none of those productive jobs.I did clean my room,make my bed,eat a pizza hot pocket for breakfast and re-arranged my computer desk for the umpteenth time.
     I know I should be writing a devastatingly witty and entertaining blog(obviously this is my rather poor attempt) for my wonderfully supportive followers.I need to go to the park,walk around and get some fresh air and exercise and feel the sun and the breeze on my face. Instead,I read and answered e-mails,checked out Facebook posts and now I am writing this to acknowledge that I am well aware of all the things I should be doing versus what I feel like doing.
  That admission being said and acknowledged, I stand my ground as the Master and Commander of my ship and I will sail her when and where I please and in this moment I intend to sail her to Wendy's for a large chocolate frosty,then join Lizzy and Mr.Darcy in a relaxing day of procrastination at Pemberly.
  Cheerio loyal followers,until we meet again!

MY BATTLE WITH A LESS THAN HONORABLE KNIGHT!

       I never asked for a battle and never expected to be challenged.However on a mild April morning the challenge was issued and I voiced my surprise to my fellow comrades and several loyal friends who had been challenged to a battle by this formidable knight who usually came out of his fortress once a year in the Spring to challenge others to a battle.Knights are known to be noble and rarely inflict serious injury unless challenged to a battle to the death or fighting during wartime. All present had dealt with this formidable enemy and knew him to be ruthless,without mercy and almost impossible to defeat.
     I am no coward but I had no known cause to do battle with this knight and chose to try mediation and appeal to the knights code of honor and plead to know the reason for this challenge and a message was sent forthwith.    A response was issued promptly and I read the charges and strongly disagreed.
Naturally,I denied the charges,requested a more reasonable resolution in the matter and waited for a response.
   The reply was terse and accusatory and I realized this knight had no desire to resolve the issue amicably or explain the complaint in a reasonable and satisfactory manner.A battle was unavoidable.

      We sparred daily in a battle style I had no familiarity with. His weapons were far superior to mine.Obviously he had unlimited resources with which to obtain armor and weapons that far outstripped mine. nevertheless I fought as bravely as I could with the weapons I had for weeks until wounded and exhausted I proposed a truce that would leave me battle scarred but alive.
     I paid dearly in time and coins to defend myself in a battle not of my making over an offense not committed by myself,but by a well meaning friend.I suppose I lost the battle,but I am fortunate that I escaped with wounds,both mental and physical, that are gradually healing and a considerably lighter coin purse.
    Fortunately for my mental and physical health, I have retired form the battleground and will not have to face this blood thirsty Knight again. I keep to my own modest castle and listen to the tales of fellow brave knights who have had to face Sir IRS every spring. I have no fond memories of the battle in which I had no wish to participate with a knight who was less than honorable.

I CONFESS I AM MADLY IN LOVE WITH MATTHEW MACFADYEN!

       I confess I am 66 and I have a major crush on the British actor,Matthew MacFadyen.I saw him for the first time as Mr.Fitzwilliam Darcy in the 2005 production of Pride and Prejudice and fell head over heels with this extraordinarily handsome man with an amazingly deep sexy voice.Thankfully, he can act too and has been in quite a few movies.I now own all of them that are still available.I ordered  8x10 photos of him and they are framed and in my room.I watch P&P at least once a week and can't wait for the new 3D movie,The Three Musketeers, to reach the theaters.
      David Matthew MacFadyen is my ideal of the perfect man,he has it all as far as I am concerned.Tall, 6'3",dark hair,nice build,handsome,sexy voice,dreamy blue green eyes and a killer smile.
     I read what I call Pride and Prejudice "What If Books" and imagine him as the extraordinary Mr.Darcy and I cannot believe I am so smitten with this unobtainable man,but I can dream and he makes me smile.So I curl up with the movie or a P&P what if book and continue my secret love affair with this drop dead gorgeous man. We all have our dreams and in my dream world I am Lizzy to his Mr.Darcy.

THAT WHICH DOESN'T KILL US MAKES US STRONGER?

       I  agree to a certain extent with that old adage.Stress,despair, depression, over a period of time can shorten our life span.Yes, I will agree that adversity can make us more determined to succeed but it can also cripple us physically and emotionally.The solution in my humble opinion is to laugh.
      Watch a funny movie,listen to a really good comedian on television,whatever it takes to put a smile on your face and laughter.Research studies have proven that laughter can actually help cancer treatments to be more effective.
      Laughter can help the body heal faster after surgery,accidents,illness,chemotherapy,radiation,etc!

       It's difficult to stay depressed when you laugh and smile.The Irish are an extraordinary people.
when a loved one dies,traditionally,a wake is held.Not so different than our funerals,except the Irish tend to celebrate the deceased person's life more than many cultures.

     A Celie (huge party) or a wake, is often held at a home or a local pub.Everyone is welcome  to raise a glass and celebrate the life of the deceased.Everyone present has a story to tell and share about the deceased. Some are true and some should have been, no one really cares. The celebration of a life lived and the grief of their passing is shared by all and the sadness is made more bearable.
   There is no disrespect intended; only a sharing of a persons life with others who knew and cared about them.I think I would much prefer a party and celebration of my life,rather than the somberness of a funeral.

GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD AND ALLOW ROOM FOR YOUR HEART!

       Relationships are at their best,wonderful,exhilarating and still remain treacherous ground all at the same time.We thrill to the sensations of being in love,agonize over the"what if it doesn't last" and at times find ourselves caught up in over thinking.what you may ask is overthinking? A good friend of mind explained to me that sometimes we get so caught up in the what if's we can't see what is really important in the situation.
       In a relationship,we question,where it is going,what might happen,what if we love more than we are loved,etc,etc!That is getting in your head and over thinking!
       Sometimes we should just accept what we are experiencing and enjoy it unconditionally.
My grandmother and mother used to tell me;"Don't Borrow Trouble"! Now at the age of 66,I finally really understand what the phrase means and what they were trying to warn me against.Unfortunately for me and several relationships the light bulb turned on too late!
      As I watch a loved one struggle with trying to have a relationship in a very difficult atmosphere,I am reminded of how important it is to realize that borrowing trouble will and can hurt both partners and destroy what could ,in time, be a wonderfully satisfying life together. 
    It is ultimately up to each partner to decide if a relationship and the other person is worth the work it will take to maintain it?
So I will close this post with a hope that my words will click with anyone who is dwelling too much in their head and not allowing room in their heart for someone they truly care for.